Things I have decided to do differently with baby #4....
1. Accept all the help that is offered. I just decided not to try to be tough. Sure I could do it without help, but I wouldn't be able to enjoy it nearly as much. When Lizzy was born I told the ward I didn't need meals. What was I thinking? I felt like I needed to get back to normal as quickly as possible.... but I'm not sure why. Why return to normal... I like abnormal... at least for awhile.
Thank you Mom for coming to take care of us for a few weeks. We loved every minute and I loved that the other kids didn't feel slighted. They got oodles of attention and probably helped avoid jealousy problems...
Thank you in advance to Nancy for coming this week. We are thrilled...
Thank you to everyone who brought in meals, sent gifts, and helped with the other kids.
I love you.
2. No "how to" books, just love, cuddles and holding my baby all I want to. I know "Babywise" and other parenting books are helpful to a lot of people, but I realized they stressed me out more. For the time being... I am going with the "you can't spoil a baby" theory and maybe he is just an easier baby... but there have been far fewer bouts of crying than I remember previously.
3. Remember that this phase is SO SO short. Having a perspective is so helpful. No only is it important to remember that the midnight feedings and painful nursing will not last forever, but it helps to remember that the tiny toes and snuggles and cute baby sighs will also not last forever.
I am loving the sweetness of a new baby in our home. Sometimes it seems as though my heart has too much to handle and I can't love any more than I do now, but Grayson just showed me that I still have a lot of love to give. I am always amazed at the rush of emotion that fills me up when I hold my baby for the first time. Immediately my heart and soul are committed to this tiny little thing and I am willing to make whatever sacrifice I need to for him. It's such a miracle.