I once had a roommate who was beautiful and had a date like EVERY SINGLE weekend. She dated a lot, but seemed to go through guys quickly. None of the guys lasted very long, even though, to me... they seemed ideal. One day I learned just what it was that she was so afraid of. It wasn't commitment, or that she was super picky... it was that they ran out of things to talk about. Even after meeting THE ONE she got scared for awhile. She felt good about things, but continued to be afraid. WHAT IF WE RUN OUT OF THINGS TO TALK ABOUT???
I think I just laughed at the time, but the thought kind of stayed with me and I have remembered that many times since. Really... it would be horrible to run out of things to talk about. What if 3 years into your marriage... you pretty much exhaust every topic and can't think of a thing to say to each other?? That would be awful.
But I got married anyway and after Lizzy was born I quit my job and stayed home to take care of my baby. Then the issue re-surfaced. Because at the end of the day, I sometimes couldn't think of anything exciting to tell my hubby. I didn't think he wanted to know how many times she'd pooped that day or what I had managed to clean while she napped. My life seemed DULL. So... I started watching the news, took a class, made some friends and somehow we made it through.
My point is... that it all seems funny to think about NOW because life gets busier and busier and now we don't have enough time to talk about what we NEED to talk about. Now I find myself having too much to tell him and often forgetting much of it.
So here are a few things we've talked about or that I need to remember to discuss with hubby sometime soon:
1. What are we doing for spring break? Are we going to Kemah tomorrow or to the rodeo? Where are we going camping? What food should I pack?
2. What should we do about Andrew? It has been a week and he still looks like this.
3. Don't worry, I got Sam into the dentist and they said that although it is unusual to see a tooth knocked out so completely at only 18 months old... he should be fine but will need a fake tooth once his molars come in.
4. You need to stop buying snacks at work because we are WAY over budget this month.
5. Sam stuck a credit card into the CD player in the van and now it doesn't work.
6. Don't forget to pick the kids up from the neighbors tonight because I am chaperoning the Young Women to the temple today.
7. I sent cards to your 3 cousins getting married this month... don't worry I signed your name.
8. How should we spend our tax return $$?
9. I bought a zoo membership on a whim and we have been having a great time... you don't mind do you? (ummm... over budget..... I know.)
10. Guess what... Lizzy practiced the piano today with NO ARGUING. It was a miracle.
11. What do you want for your birthday? It is coming up you know.
12. Since I won't be home tonight and tomorrow is St. Patty's day... could you maybe help the kids set out the paint to catch the leprechauns... like we do every year?
And last but not least...
13. After I get home tonight... do you maybe want to just sit together silently for awhile and not talk about a SINGLE SOLITARY THING?
Okay then. Love you.